by: Jeff Lakie
People in long-term relationships, whether they are married or
dating, often complain about getting into a rut. Your
relationship may have started off with the great burst of
passion and excitement but perhaps it began to wane because life
is busy and work can where you out by the end of the day.
If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or
wonder why you can't keep a long term relationship exciting
anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That
doesn't mean you need to break up with your current partner and
find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship
with exciting and spontaneous activities.
When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you
remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not
likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times
when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's
what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship,
when everything you do is spontaneous and new.
Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to
do something on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do
something different! Here are some ideas:
Play paintball
Rent a classic car
Go skydiving
Have a picnic
Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:
Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the
day
Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons
is that people simply drift apart because the other person
doesn't excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're
your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it
is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build
memories together.
You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you
consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together.
But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the
beginning of your relationship and have fun again!
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website
providing information on Dating
